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Love & The Ex Files…

Posted on: April 24, 2009


Friday 24th April 2009

"To Sarah, some of my art, you are one of those rare and special things, a true beliver in love"

"To Sarah, some of my art, you are one of those rare and special things, a true believer in love"

This picture was a gift from a gorgeous girl who goes by the name of Jewels and who i speak to lots on Twitter. (And not forgetting Edie!) We all have this really sweet thing where we just send each other long essays about love and fashion and i genuinely look forward to their tweets. Jewels, like me, is a hopeless romantic. But eventhough i have believed in love in other people, i never ever thought it was something for me. I love getting lost in a romantic films and always adored the idea of a consuming romance but i just never thought i would want to be the one who was consumed by something like that. It was one of those things that always seemed so good from a distant, but scared me to death when it became a reality..

For me, being single represented everything i was proud of. It made me feel independent, mature, in control and probably quite free in an odd way and I definately enjoyed it. At the time – with two previous relationships under my belt – i was living in a flat with a friend and having such a brilliant time just learning how to be independent and going out and doing what single girls do. A relationship was never even a consideration & eventhough i did enjoy single life, it isn’t anything compared to what a relationship brings. Love is definately for me..

But that brings me to the next point, “The Ex Files” and can we ever really be friends with our exes? And more importantly, their partners too? I have two exes, one i talk too a little and one i dont. Not really because either of us decided it would be that way, but just because it was a quite messy ending and thats just how it goes..

I like the idea of being friends with exes, after all, you have been in an intimate relationship with them and you were pretty much BFF’s at one point but it hasn’t really ever happened like that for me. Not because i want them back or because we were so in love it’s unbearable to see them with another etc but just because we were young and in the nicest way this could sound, we’ve changed. I’m definately not the same person i was a few years ago and it’s better that way. I have a lot of friends, but a lot of them are on the same terms as the exes, i.e polite hellos, goodbyes, how are you etc, but just because there exes should it be different? I just don’t feel like i need them, i have friends, and then i have my great friends who i’d do anything for and vice versa, and if you know they don’t feel the same about you and it’s a mutual parting, why should you be friends?

What do you guys think? Friends with exes, good or bad?

Lots of people have varied oppinions on this so it would be good to get your feedback. This is going to be a Podcast issue on week 2 so let’s have your comments to read on air!

Update for the podcast, we have a plan now! Were hoping to start recording on Monday 4th May so keep checking in for that. Were really excited and hope you are too! The link is in the side bar so make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss anything! Also, i have updated a page in the Lust List section on a few peices i saw over the weekend whilst browsing the web! So make sure you check that out!

My boyfriend is running the London Marathon on Sunday so were off to London for the weekend. I swear i’m more nervous than him! If you have some spare change lingering around, PLEASE sponsor him! He’s running it for a local charity called Myton Hospice and it’s going to a really good cause so help anyway you can!!

And, thats it from me, i’m being badgered to leave, leave your comments and views, i love reading them!

Sarah xoxo

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1 Response to "Love & The Ex Files…"

At the moment I’m probably in the single stage that you went through, single and happy. I’ve got an ex I speak too very rarely, and its alway the superficial hellos and how are yous, when we do.
I don’t think you can be friends with exes. Its a nice thought but for me its never the same after a break up and even if I didn’t want them back it’d be strange seeing them with a new girlfriend. At times I’ve felt like I’d like to have him in my life as a proper friend, and even though I don’t want to be with him it feels weird, like it should be all or nothing. You invest so much time in one person so its hard to cut them out your life but for me its the easiest way to move on.

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